No names · No faces · No judgement
Say it here first.
A place for dads to talk honestly about the hard parts: the tiredness, the loneliness, the things you haven't said out loud to anyone. Even with a partner who loves you, it can be tough. You're not the only one.
We never ask for your name. Handles only.
"I love my son more than anything. Some nights I still sit in the car on the driveway before I go in."
About 1 in 10 dads experience depression around the birth of a child. Most never say a word.
Paulson & Bazemore, JAMA 2010How it works
Start by reading. Speak when you're ready.
The Driveway is peer support for dads: other fathers, and bonus dads, who have felt what you're feeling. It's free, anonymous and moderated.
- Open now
1. Read
Honest, anonymous stories from dads who've been there, on Instagram and in the Sunday Letter. No sign-up needed.
- Coming soon
2. Share
Write what's on your mind. No name, no email. We only post it if you say yes, and we remove anything that could identify you.
- Opening soon
3. Join the boards
Talk with other dads in a private, moderated space. Pick a handle and pull up a chair.
Confessions
Things dads don't say out loud.
For now, these are from Jon, who started The Driveway. Stories from other dads will appear here once they're shared with us, and only with their permission.
"Some nights I sit in the car on the driveway before I go in. Other nights I take the long way home. I need a minute to put the day down first."
"When my son was a baby, everyone asked how he was and how my wife was. I kept waiting for someone to ask me."
"I can't remember the last time I saw my mates without the kids there. I didn't lose them. We just stopped."
The light's on. Come in when you're ready.
Who runs this
One name, so you don't need yours.
I'm Jon, a dad and the founder of The Driveway. I'm the one person here who uses his real name, so there's always someone accountable for how this place is run.
Everyone else stays anonymous. I'll never ask who you are, and I'll never try to find out. If something here isn't right, tell me directly: info@thedrivewaydads.com.
The boards
A room full of dads who get it.
Private, moderated boards for dads-to-be, the first year, relationships, headspace, co-parenting, bonus dads, work and money, a quiet space for dads after pregnancy or baby loss, and one for anything but kids.
- Handles only, no real names or photos of kids
- Moderated, with a written safety plan
- Free, always
Opening soon. Sign up to the Sunday Letter to get first access.
The Library
Something for the drive home.
Short audio sessions for the few minutes before you go in, "What to say when…" scripts for the hard conversations, and practical guides for every stage. Use it on your own, any time, wherever you live.
Driveway Sessions
Five to ten minutes of audio for the car, recorded by Jon in his own voice. The night shift, going back to work, the day you snapped.
What to say when…
Words for the conversations dads put off: telling your partner you're struggling, asking your boss about leave, getting back in touch with a mate.
Guides for every stage
The First Year, For Dads, and Expecting: from the scan to the first week. Our guide for dads after a pregnancy or baby loss is free for everyone, always.
Opens 15 December. Sunday Letter readers get the founding-member price.
Dad Circles
A small group that knows your name. Well, your handle.
Six to eight dads at the same stage as you, with a host. A live voice call every two weeks, plus voice notes and text in between. No video, so nobody ever sees your face.
Matched by stage
Expecting, the first year, older kids, co-parenting, bonus dads. A new dad and a divorced dad of a 12-year-old need different rooms.
Built for real life
The first Circles meet on UK and Ireland evenings. US and Australian slots follow as more dads join, so nobody's left with a 3am call. Or just reply in the thread at 11pm.
Through your work, too
Some employers cover places for their dads. If yours does, they never see your name or what you say. Only how many joined.
Pilot Circles start in spring 2027. Tick "Pilot Circle" when you sign up below to hear first.
The Sunday Letter
One email a week: honest stories, one truth about fatherhood, and one small win. Two minutes with your coffee.
Nearly there. Check your inbox.
We've sent a confirmation email to your inbox. Tap the button inside it and you're in.
Can't see it in a few minutes? Check your Promotions or spam folder. It comes from info@thedrivewaydads.com.
Not sure where to start?
See what's open in your country: the free community, the Library and Dad Circles.
Struggling right now? Talk to someone today.
We're peer support, not a crisis service. If you might harm yourself or someone else, call your emergency number or one of these free lines.